Case Study: Jill

Case Study: Jill

Jill had a partner who told her every day that she wasn’t good enough. One day, she was too fat, and the next day, her ideas were insane. He looked at her with disapproval. Jill was unhappy in her relationship but felt unable to leave her partner because she thought that she didn’t deserve anything better.

Deep in her heart was hidden the story of a child. One day, this child told her father full of excitement, I am 2nd best in my math exam! She was proud, and she longed for his appreciation. He looked at her with depreciation and said coldly, why aren’t you the best? 2nd best isn’t worth anything. You just aren’t good enough. He walked away, leaving his daughter alone, feeling rejected and disappointed. She tried harder to get his appreciation. And his reaction never changed. This child learned that she just wasn’t good enough and as an adult, she repeated the same pattern in her romantic relationships.

During her mentoring process, she connected deeply with her needs and wants, took responsibility for her emotions and owned the rejected parts of her story she formerly rejected. She created a new, powerful story about herself and learned to love and accept herself as she was. Her inner growth empowered her to be ready for the relationship she always dreamt of.

Case Study: Emily

Emily was unable to trust her partner, and she always found men whom she has to save from their unhappiness – a task impossible to achieve.

Emily was the daughter of a mother who had problems with alcohol. How often her mother had promised her to make the dinner? How often had she broken this promise? Emily couldn’t remember how often she came home and found her mother in the living room on the sofa, nearly unconscious while sleeping off the intoxication. She never complained. She just started to cook and to take care of her mother, but with each broken promise, her heart was breaking, and her trust faded away. She unconsciously repeated this pattern in her relationship. She took on responsibilities that wasn’t hers and neglected her needs and wants.

During her mentoring process, Emily learned to take care of her inner child and to accept herself unconditionally. She started to take care of her happiness and let go of the need to save her partner. She began to claim her relationship rights, to set healthy boundaries and to develop healthy relationship behaviours like developing trust in her partner. This way, she opened her heart for love and was ready to have the relationship she always wanted.