Jill had a partner who told her every day that she wasn’t good enough. One day, she was too fat, and the next day, her ideas were insane. He looked at her with disapproval. Jill was unhappy in her relationship but felt unable to leave her partner because she thought that she didn’t deserve anything better.
Deep in her heart was hidden the story of a child. One day, this child told her father full of excitement, I am 2nd best in my math exam! She was proud, and she longed for his appreciation. He looked at her with depreciation and said coldly, why aren’t you the best? 2nd best isn’t worth anything. You just aren’t good enough. He walked away, leaving his daughter alone, feeling rejected and disappointed. She tried harder to get his appreciation. And his reaction never changed. This child learned that she just wasn’t good enough and as an adult, she repeated the same pattern in her romantic relationships.
During her mentoring process, she connected deeply with her needs and wants, took responsibility for her emotions and owned the rejected parts of her story she formerly rejected. She created a new, powerful story about herself and learned to love and accept herself as she was. Her inner growth empowered her to be ready for the relationship she always dreamt of.