I am Natalie Jovanic – a Registered Therapeutic Counsellor. If you grew up in a family with dysfunctional relationships or if have experienced abusive relationships, you might want to keep reading because I may be able to help you.
Let me tell you my story:
On a warm Tuesday morning in September, my mother died after a period of great suffering. I could not imagine my life without her, and I did not have any idea how my life was going to continue. Her doctor encouraged me to see my mother’s death as though it had brought her freedom. Freedom… I sensed by the energy of her words that being free must be wonderful. Freedom was a concept that I had never known before; sadness and pain were what I knew. I felt that maybe it was a wonderful choice for my mom. Would I have to die first to be able to be free from suffering? It was that day when I was 19 years old that I left home forever. I left behind darkness, abuse and manipulation, and began my search for freedom.
Years later while washing my hair, I caught myself watching the water disappear down the drain. A feeling emerged from within me that I could finally put words to; I felt as if it was my life that was running away. I had a good job and a relationship, but I was trapped in my own fears and with a deep feeling of worthlessness. I knew that I deserved something better. I needed to do something and I knew that only I could make the difference. So I started this process of change. I cut my hair, took drawing classes, started yoga and moved into an internationally based career. I could not wait to see if the personal changes I was making would make other areas of my life better. I was ready to take responsibility for my own happiness.
I was sitting in a little bar by the Bi Tan Lake in Taiwan sharing stories with some of my colleagues of our relationships. I could hear the love and respect they had in their voices when they spoke of their partners. I could not speak this way about my partner; I did not feel those things. I realized with clarity that my relationship was not the way I wanted it to be. Soon after, my attempt to make changes failed and I decided that it was better to stay alone. I knew I would find the relationship that was right for me one day. Once again, I took the right action and the right time through self-awareness and responsibility.
In the following years, I analyzed my past behaviours and studied all about love and relationships and how to improve them. I learned to discern healthy from unhealthy behaviour in relationships, to speak my truth, to be assertive and to respect my boundaries. I also established a nurturing relationship with my inner child.
Then, I met a woman – Ana, a coach. Accompanied by a severe thunderstorm, I told her the story of my life. She looked at me and said, You should become a coach. You’ve got what it takes. I looked at her, astonished. Since some years, I wanted to change careers but I didn’t know what direction to go. Her words resonated with me and I started to research it. Soon after, I began a new professional career. I am trained in coaching, storytelling, relationship coaching, systemic and family constellations and counselling. Additionally, I am a Shiatsu therapist. This allows me to give my clients an holistic approach to healing that integrates body, mind and spirit.
Now – as a Counsellor – I pass on what I believe in, but it isn’t just knowledge, theory, and professional experience. I teach what has helped me to experience inner changes that earlier I would not have believed possible.
I can’t make that change for you, but I can help you get there.